It seems like so many of my friends are searching for “the one” for them. And the more that I think about it, I don’t think there is a “one” for everyone. (Why do I have the sinking feeling that I just crushed many hearts by saying that?) But ok, get this. God does have a plan for each of our lives, right? I mean it says so in Jeremiah 29:11. (“’For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the Lord. ‘Plans to prosper you, not to harm you. Plans for a hope and a future.’”) But here is the other side of things. God also gave us free will. (Prime example of free will in use would be Adam and Eve’s choice to eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil.) When God says He has plans for us, I believe that He is saying that if we are in His will that He does have all these wonderful plans for us. And one part of those plans is to spend eternity with Him!
If God chose someone for each of us, many of us would get “screwed over”. We all know that not everyone wants to live in God’s will, and some of us will even think that we’re in God’s will, but really we aren’t. So say that God has planned that Jack is to be will Jill. But Jack decides to not be in the right place at the right time and Jill goes and looks for love somewhere else. What happens then? Jill marries someone else? That means that Jack is without his “one” and the man that Jill ends up with has made his “one” without her “one”. It gets complicated with all the “one” stuff going on, but hopefully you followed me.
By saying that God doesn’t choose someone for each of us, does not mean that He can’t or won’t choose someone for some of us. But for those relationships to work out, we really have to be in tune to what God wants for us. We have to be sensitive to His voice.
Here’s the deal. Not to sound like a whore or something weird, I think there are many men out there who COULD be my man. God says that we are to be equally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14), and I know that there are many fellow believers out there whom I could be equally yoked to. (Granted, this doesn’t mean I’m going to try to yoked with them all. I am not a fan of polygamy, mind you.)
To all you people who are freaking out that you are going to miss your “chance meeting” or whatever you wish to call it with your “one”, calm down. I honestly believe that if you truly focus on God, He will work things out to where love will just come together. Now, I must warn you. IF you choose to step outside of God’s will once you are with your “perfect one”, that relationship can fail. God gave us rules and guidelines for a reason, and stepping outside of them is VERY dangerous territory. Territory which can lead to dealing with mistakes that will haunt you for the rest of your life, like I mentioned in my last blog.
My encouragement to you is, wait. Listen to the song “Wait for Me” by Rebecca St. James. It is a great song! Love will find you in God’s time if you allow it to. Outside of God’s time, you have no idea what you may be getting yourself into. Pray and seek what God has for you. And when love comes along and God is in the center, you will most likely find yourself with your “perfect one”.
(I do want to encourage those who have lost their “perfect one”. Like I said earlier, there are many fellow believers out there who could be your “perfect one” at a different time in your life. (Though NOT while you are with someone else, of course). Again, just be sensitive to God’s guidance in your life.)
No comments:
Post a Comment